:: Equipping Teens For Independence ::
I have found as my children have approached young adulthood, it’s challenging to be as purposeful about setting time aside to really equip them. Life gets so hectic and we often go from one “gotta do this” to the next. But our teens direly need that time with us. And I’m a firm believer it should be US. Their parents. Their aunts or uncles or grandparents. We are missing it, folks if we leave the gaps for someone else to fill.
I am not referring to social skills like coping with loneliness. I also am not referring to basic skills like hygiene or acquiring and maintaining a job. Time has an excellent article on varying statistics of today’s teen population and their financial status – as well as the parents that are paying their children’s bills well into adulthood. But here, on Laura’s Little House Tips, I want to bring up the needs in independent life that we often skate through – brush past. Get it done! Without realizing it would best facilitate learning for our kids to slow down. Welcome them in on the issue at hand. Continue that nurturing into some of the most mundane moments of life.
Well – we are all great parents – right? Of course. I am not threatening anyone’s parental worth. What I want to do here is create awareness. A conversation! Chime in with your thoughts please! Because let’s face it…. we’ve all taught our older children many of the things on the ‘honey-do’ list but I want to meet you and shake your hand if you’ve gotten to EVERYTHING on that list… and that list is delightfully endless!
Let’s think for a moment about all those things they’ll want to know how to take care of on their own! Checking fluids in their car. Checking the car battery for corrosion. Connecting routes using public transportation. Sharpening a knife. Budgeting. <free download for budgeting help there because hey, we all can use free help! 🙂 What about checking the breakers when an appliance won’t work. Changing an air conditioning filter or a tire! We could go on and on but the point is, when they leave our nest – we want them to be confident and happy. Not always having to rely on someone else or constantly calling home. (Okay, calling home is nice but I’d rather spend time hearing from their heart about life not giving them step by steps regarding things they can learn while they are still at home!)
We raise poultry and meat rabbits here on our farm. I was surprised when our daughter wanted to be involved in the dispatching so she could add that to her knowledge toward independence! Whatever those things are on the list you’ve accomplished in teaching – well done!!! And this post is meant to jog our thinking … “what have I left out?”